I was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia after living with its symptoms for more than a decade, but pain has been part of my life since I was eight years old. In this personal essay, I share what fibromyalgia pain, fatigue, fibro fog, unrefreshing sleep, and invisible illness look like in my daily life, along with the complicated connection between decades of trauma, chronic stress, and physical health.

“Narcissist” has become a catch-all for everything from selfishness to serious abuse. This article looks at what gets lost when narcissistic traits, NPD, harmful behavior, and abuse are treated as interchangeable, and why the behavior itself often tells us more than the label.